We cannot open the gate of another, either by argument or by emotional appeal. Each of us guards a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside. In order to make something a habit in our lives, we have to have all three. And desire is the motivation, the want to do. Knowledge is the theoretical paradigm, the what to do and the why. Fear replaces cooperation, and both people involved become more arbitrary and defensive. And finally, it builds weakness in the relationship. It builds weakness on the person forced to acquiesce, stunting the development of independent reasoning, growth, and internal discipline. It builds weakness in the borrower because it reinforces dependence on external factors to get things done. But if we want to make significant, quantum change, we need to work on our basic paradigms.Д«orrowing strength builds weakness. If we want to make relatively minor changes in our lives, we can perhaps appropriately focus on our attitudes and behaviors. The more aware we are of our basic paradigms, maps, or assumptions, and the extent to which we have been influenced by our experience, the more we can take responsibility for those paradigms, examine them, test them against reality, listen to others and be open to their perceptions, thereby getting a larger picture and a far more objective view. When we open our mouths to describe what we see, we in effect describe ourselves, our perceptions, our paradigms. We see the world, not as it is, but as we are-or, as we are conditioned to see it. David Starr JordanД®ach of us has many, many maps in our head, which can be divided into two main categories: maps of the way things are (realities) and maps of the way thing should be (values).Д®ach of us tends to think we see things as they are, that we are objective. There is no real excellence in all this world which can be separated from right living. Nice common human challenges we face: fear and insecurity, instant gratification, blame and victimism, hopelessness, lack of life balance, selfishness, the hunger to be understood, conflict and differences, and personal stagnation. Leadership is communicating othersвЂ™ worth and potential so clearly that they are inspired to see it in themselves. At the same time, no company can remain great without stimulating progress-change, renewal, improvement, and the pursuit of extraordinary goals.

No enterprise can become or remain truly great without a core set of principles to preserve, to build upon, to serve as an anchor, to provide guidance in the face of an ever-changing world.

Stephen covey 7 habits